The best way to loose faith in humanity and society is to read the comments.
I have a very varied group of people on my facebook. From science nerds, radio casters, music producers, rednecks, old bitties, people who support equal rights for everyone, people who want me to believe Obama was the worst president the US has ever had, activists, haters, arrogant asshats, gentle souls, and independent ladies. Funny enough, I only add people I actually know or knew.
I don’t post much, except to share occasional articles on archaeology or express my dislike for a certain PM who I’m actually worried about naming because of a stupid bill he made. HOWEVER I am on there all the time. LIKE ALL THE TIME. With such a diverse group, I get all sides of the big arguments. Gay marriage. Millennials are the “Worst” (Ahem). Hypocrisy in the Church and government. Native neglect. I could go on.
I often read the comments on these things that get shared. I don’t know why. I know what I’ll see and I know it will depress me in the extreme. Gay marriage for today’s example. I see Christians arguing over who is a REAL christian, and how can you be a REAL christian if you take this side or that side. Doesn’t matter which side, because both sides use the argument. I think they all forgot that there are a lot of different sects of Christianity. I see Atheists jump in and ruin their point by making some rude comment about faith. I’m not Christian. I’m not an atheist. I guess if I needed a label it would be agnostic, because I don’t know.
What I do know however is that you should be kind. And if someone`s life choices aren’t hurting anyone, then it`s not my concern. That is what it should all boil down to. Always. REALLY ask yourself. Is that gay marriage hurting me? I’ve seen some arguments that it devalues the meaning of their own marriage. It really doesn’t, because what you are arguing is semantics. Christianity does not own the concept of marriage. It predates Christianity. If we just changed the word for marriage to something else, to create a differentiation between Christian Marriage and other marriage, a lot of people would stop throwing fits I think. It wouldn’t solve it all, but a lot.
By denying gay couples marriage, you deny them fair rights to government benefits in things like taxes. While Gay Christian couples would probably still want their marriage recognized by their faith, that would be an issue within the church. The issue out here is civic. They are HUMAN rights, not Christian Rights (as an example). It is hard to fully articulate the thought, but its such an obvious one to me that I’m sure I’m not the first it has occurred to. Either way, it doesn’t hurt anyone, so it shouldn’t be such a problem.
And yet, the comments I read are disgusting. Not just on the topic of Gay Marriage either. The comments grown, mature adults make, generalizing a large age grouping, are rude, inconsiderate, degrading, and JUST AS BAD as what I read in Gay Marriage arguments.
I’m not sure how I, a 27 year old with a B.A honours and a Post Grad degree, who is working 2 minimum wage jobs and struggling to support myself, while cursing the minimum wage for going up AGAIN because it ruins all chances of raises at work, and just raises costs of everything else, with a giant OSAP loan and no chance to buy a car, let alone a house, can be lumped in with 16 year old high school students who really don’t need to worry about things yet, and have the time to hang out, take selfies, and enjoy their youth like they are supposed to do. We are very different people.
All it takes is one bad apple, and the elder generations jump on all of us. We are lazy, self entitled, stay at home lounge-abouts. Did I mention I have 2 jobs? I know a lot of people my age with 2 jobs. It makes me wonder just how accurate job statistics are. So 100,000 new jobs in the month of whatever…. how many were taken as second or THIRD jobs by people who were already working? The fact that I can work 2 jobs and still not make enough that the National Student Loan people assume I’m too poor to give them their money, and the government pays my interest, is a ridiculous situation.
I repeat: The government that wants my money, will not take it, because I AM TOO POOR EVEN WORKING TWO JOBS.
I must be so lazy. How dare I expect to support myself. How dare I rely on family because I can’t. Millennials are the worst.
I got to thinking on this because it is utterly untrue. Yesterday, for a change, when I read the comments I felt hope.
Call Me Caitlyn. Can you believe it? Formally Bruce Jenner of the Kardashian Empire. Kim K and her sisters get a LOT of hate. Which is normal I guess, for celebrities. It’s the natural state of hate that appears in the comments almost everywhere. Except, not on this.
Now I didn’t click on any articles like the TO star and read the comments. I’m sure there was hate there too. But that’s also the arena of the older generations. The place where they tend to express their disgust with people like me. I got all I needed from Twitter. From reading the replies. From the Hashtags. From the Trending. From the wave of hate that unsuspecting Drake Bell received. Twitter, for better or worse, is the medium the despicable Millennials (like me) use for their news and their connections to the world around them.
On the whole, even the folks that kinda hate Kim K and her family, showed overwhelming support for Caitlyn. So accepting. So okay with it. So understanding of the whole concept that if it isn’t hurting anyone, it isn’t your concern. When Drake Bell made his stupid comment, he got hate. Because he tried to deny someone their identity, when it wasn’t hurting him. He proved himself to be a bit of a bigot, and the MILLENNIALS jumped on him for it. They made it clear that bigotry is not okay anymore. It exists certainly, but I have this new feeling. A hope that MY generation, including these silly high school kids who are rightly or wrongly fighting over school dress codes, will teach their own children that bigotry in any form is not okay. Because it hurts people.
And that their children will teach the same.
And that one day all the bigots will be flushed out of society. Died of old age and old ways.
For once, I am proud to lump myself in with the Millennials.